Coping with Holiday Stress

How to cope with holiday stress

Page updated on Dec 4, 2017 at 9:14 AM

Coping with Holiday Stress 

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Tips for Reducing Holiday Stress

Stress-Reducing Tips

  • Set time aside to think about lost loved ones. Talk about your feelings. Do something to honor their memories such as lighting a candle, singing a song saying a prayer or eating your loved one’s favorite food.
  • Don’t allow your holiday expectations to be determined by magazine pictures or unrealistic television scenes. High expectations cause pressure. Nobody can create the picture-perfect home or family. Do the best you can and know that it is good enough.
  • Establish a budget and stick to it. Be realistic about what you can spend on gifts, entertainment, decorations and travel.
  • When giving gifts, remember that it’s the thought that counts. Remind children of this too. Handmade gifts will help you to save, and also carry special message to friends and relatives.
  • Surprises are nice, but asking people what they want makes shopping easier.
  • Ask for help. If you have guests, ask them to bring part of the meal. They will feel good about being able to contribute.

More Holiday Stress Tips

  • Find time for yourself to relax and reflect on the simple joys of the holidays. When you feel overwhelmed, take a break.
  • Don’t feel obligated to visit everybody. Plan in advance which days, times and meals you will spend with whom. Don’t be afraid to say no, or alternate who you visit with each year.
  • Give yourself permission to decorate less and drop one or two family traditions in order to reduce stress.
  • Drink in moderation, eat healthy foods and get plenty of exercise and rest so you have energy, feel good and are better able to avoid family conflicts. When entertaining, do not encourage or pressure your guests to have drinks.
  • Don’t feel badly if you’re not happy. Holiday blues are normal and temporary.
  • Remember that one reason for the holidays is renewal through sharing love and faith with others.

Kids & Holiday Stress

Children often experience stress during the holidays due to sadness for lost loved ones, parental/guardian stress, or over-excitement.

Signs of stress in children include:

  • Hyperactivity
  • Crying and sadness
  • Clinging, or fear of strangers
  • Worry, nightmares, fear of darkness
  • Regression to immature behavior such as bed wetting or thumb sucking
  • Increased shyness or aggression
  • Headaches, stomachaches and other pain
  • Talking of death or dying

Some ideas on how to help:

  • Manage your own stress
  • Maintain normal household routines
  • Talk with kids about their feelings at a level they can understand
  • Encourage kids to express their feelings through drawings or playing
  • Enforce established rules and consequences
  • Include kids in planning a ceremony to remember and honor lost loved ones
  • Teach kids about different cultural holidays
  • Involve kids in holiday preparation; ask for and include their ideas
  • Spend peaceful individual time with each child, doing quiet activities they enjoy (Try just 10 minutes a day!)
  • Have your entire family plan and participate in giving (time, money, gifts) to someone less fortunate
  • Give kids lots of hugs, love and patience
  • Give yourself lots of love and patience

Help During the Holidays

Holidays may be stressful due to anxieties about safety and what the future may bring. Some may be facing the holidays without family, friends or co-workers. It may be that we don’t have our normal energy level for shopping or entertaining. Although the season can be challenging, there are ways to beat the stress and have meaningful moments with our loved ones. These are practical steps to help reduce stress during the holiday season.

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